Is the midlife crisis inevitable, or can it be redefined?
For me, this is not just a question, but a deeply personal journey that has shaped my coaching philosophy. Having experienced the turbulence of a midlife crisis myself, I’ve come to understand its roots, its impact, and, most importantly, how it can be prevented.
What is a Midlife Crisis and How Can I Help?
A midlife crisis often stems from unmet expectations, unresolved emotions, or a growing disconnect between one’s inner world and outer life. When I work with people facing this pivotal moment, we don’t just focus on repairing the damage; we focus on building resilience and creating clarity to prevent the crisis from taking hold in the first place.
The Mind Behind the Crisis
The key to navigating a midlife crisis lies in understanding the “mind behind the crisis.” It’s not simply about external achievements or ticking boxes of success. It’s about understanding what truly matters: your values, relationships, and purpose.
The Disconnect Many Feel
Many people, but men in particular during midlife, feel trapped by expectations, both societal and self-imposed. They may excel at work but struggle with a nagging sense of emptiness or regret.
One of the most common threads I see in my work is the disconnect men experience in their personal lives. For example, I once worked with a client who had never read his young daughter a bedtime story, not because he didn’t love her, but because his mind was constantly consumed by work.
The Importance of Family and Presence
Family, nearly always at the top of our gratitude lists and core values, is often where the deepest disconnect occurs. We are often with our families in body but not in mind, spirit, or soul.
My role as a coach
My role as a coach is to help people step back and reflect on what’s truly important. Through my inside-out approach, we dive into what it means to live a fulfilling and balanced life, not by traditional metrics, but by personal fulfilment. This process helps them realign their values with their daily actions, creating a smarter self-management system that prioritises presence, clarity, and purpose.
Preventing the Crisis Before It Takes Hold
The beauty of this work is that it doesn’t just address the symptoms of a midlife crisis; it helps prevent the crisis from taking root. By fostering self-awareness and focusing on what truly matters, my clients often discover a renewed sense of purpose and direction. They realize that happiness at home and fulfillment in life are not only achievable but also integral to their performance and satisfaction at work.
The Irony of Alignment
And here’s the irony: when men step into their personal lives with greater presence and alignment, they don’t just become better fathers, mothers, partners, and friends; they also become better leaders, colleagues, and professionals. A person who feels grounded, inspired, and emotionally balanced is more capable of navigating challenges, making decisions, and performing at a higher level.
“Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research”
Carl Jung
Feedback from clients who have transformed and beaten the midlife crisis
Before
- “I’m a crap mother/ father.”
- “I’m not a good wife/ husband.”
- “When I’m stressed, my family gets it – they are my moving targets.”
- “I have resentment for what I have to do at home.”
- “I’m never present with my children.”
- “I have compromised my career for my family.”
After
- “Family is my priority.”
- “Family is my primary core value.”
- “Family is what I’m most grateful for.”
- “I finally feel present in the evening and switch off from work.”
- “I understand how to manage my stress and regulate myself.”
- “I live aligned to my values.”
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